Proving Your Love

So I would think that this is something that every couple goes through at some point in their relationship.

I feel that in every relationship there is the person that needs you to SHOW them everyday just how much you love them and then there is the other person that just knows.

For me I'm a simple girl. It's the simple things in life that mean the most to me. e.g helping me when I cook.

So how do you prove to someone that you love them? Love to me is alot of things. e.g

When you are in a relationship it's two totally different people coming together. There are alot of things that you have to change in order for it to work. I feel there is no quick way to prove to someone you love them. It's a work in progress. It's in the everyday things that you do. I don't believe in buying "things" because anyone can do that. Feeling emotionally safe for me is how you prove your love.

Love is an emotion, just like being sad or angry.  It's something that you feel and that you can express. 

Sound off in the comments and let me know what you think about this topic.

Till next time.

XOXO, T

Book Club Corner - E.L. James - Fifty Shades Darker

Hi Guys,

It's Book Club Corner Time again. So grab your nice cup of tea/coffee/hot chocolate and sit back and enjoy the second installment review.

After reading the first book and falling in love with it I just couldn't wait to read the next installment and started reading it immediately.

In the first book it ended up with Christian and Ana breaking up so the second one begins with that. The two of them are so heartbroken. Ana looses alot of weight because she stops eating because all she can think about all day long is Chrisitian. (typical of us ladies.)  But then he unexpectedly calls her up to offer to take her to her friend's showcase and the romance heats up again. Ana has also started a new job but finds her new boss a little too "friendly."

Ana then finds out that Christian has bought the company where she works which rattles her a bit. And one evening her new boss tries to come onto her but Ana manages to prevent anything happening and then Chrisitan fires him.

In this installment Ana gets to meet the lady who taught fifty how to be well... fifty. But the meeting is not a friendly one and the woman is actually quite hostile towards Ana. The good thing about this is that it sort of ends the friendship between Christian and her.

Ana also has to deal with being stalked by one of Christian's ex-submissives who also looks alot like her (OMG!!).

I don't want to give too much away otherwise that will spoil all the fun. But as always there is lots and lots of heated sex scences, alot of dealing with each other's different personalities but most of all lots and lots of love.

It is amazing to see how these two characters grow and how much Christian changes in order to please his woman. I have heard alot of people saying that in this book Ana becomes the dom while Christian becomes the sub. But I don't look at it that way. Aren't relationships about change and growth and compromise? Well for me this book is all that and so much more even if this is not the conventional way.

Once again E.L James has done a phenomenal job. You cannot fault her delightful way of writing or her innovative storyline.

I am now reading the third installment and trust me so far so good. Can't wait to end it so I can write my next review but also don't want to end it because I haven't gotten the new book yet :(

Happy reading guys!!!

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Music Corner - Kanye West - Only One

Hi Guys,

Every now and then I find a song that I fall in love with and have it on repeat (much to my husband's dismay.) So I just had to share with you my latest find.

 So as most of my friends and family know I am THE biggest Kardashian fan this side of the equator. And recently when watching one of the episodes I saw the making of Kanye West's video for "Only One." I didn't pay much attention to it but was intrigued by the fact that it was a video that included his beautiful baby girl, all shot on an iPhone. (Ey, technology hey!!!). But the icing on the cake was hearing about how the song came to be.

 This song is about Kanye's mom coming to him in a dream and telling him how she feels. So because of that I just had to have the song.

 My husband then downloaded it and when he put it on to play I was mesmerized. I had always heard Kanye was talented and one or two song's of his I have liked but I have never been a real fan. I have stood up and taken notice more of him because well he married my girl Kim (lol.)

The song title "Only One" is because Kanye was an only child.

 There are no words to describe this song. Imagine having lost your parent and they come back to you to tell how proud they are of you?

 My favourite line in the whole song is:
"I spoke to God about you.
He said he sent you an angel.
 Look at all that he gave you, you asked for one and you got two."

 Right there his mom is telling him that God has blessed him with so much. He wanted an angel and God sent him his wife but then also sent him his daughter.(2 angels.) That right there is poetry in motion. A real affirmation of love.

 But she starts off the song by saying:
"Hello Mari.(His second name being Omari.)
 How you doing?
I think the storm ran out of rain, the clouds are movin'
I know you're happy, cause I can see it.
So tell the voice inside ya' head to believe it.
You'll be the man you always knew you could be
 And if you knew how proud I was
You'd never shed a tear, have a fear No you wouldn't do that.
Hello my only one Hey, hey, hey, hey

 I think Kanye has never actually realised how a great a man he has become.

 His mom goes on to say:
"You'll be the man you always knew you could be
 And if you knew how proud I was
You'd never shed a tear, have a fear No you wouldn't do that."

 I think all of us, as children, want to hear that affirmation from our parents. More so if you have lost a parent.

 I love this song, the meaning and every single lyric in it.

 Well done Kanye!!!!

 XoXo, T.

[Verse 1]
As I lay me down to sleep
I hear her speak to me
Hello 'Mari, how ya doin'?
I think the storm ran out of rain, the clouds are movin'
I know you're happy, cause I can see it
So tell the voice inside ya' head to believe it
I talked to God about you, he said he sent you an angel
And look at all that he gave you
You asked for one and you got two
You know I never left you
Cause every road that leads to heaven's right inside you
So I can say

[Hook]
Hello my only one
Just like the morning sun
You keep on rising till the sky knows your name
Hello my only one
Remember who you are
No you’re not perfect but you’re not your mistakes

[Verse 2]
Hey, hey, hey, hey
Oh the good outweighs the bad even on your worst day
Remember how I'd say, hey, hey, one day
You'll be the man you always knew you would be
And if you knew how proud I was
You'd never shed a tear, have a fear
No you wouldn't do that
And though I didn't pick the day to turn the page
I know it's not the end every time I see her face
And I hear you say

[Hook]
Hello my only one
Remember who you are
You got the world cause you got the love in your hands
And you’re still my chosen one
So can you understand
One day you’ll understand

[Bridge]
So hear me out, hear me out
I won't go, I won't go
No goodbyes, no goodbyes
Just hello, just hello
And when you cry, I will cry
And when you smile, I will smile
And next time when I look in your eyes
We'll have wings and we'll fly

[Hook]
Hello my only one
Just like the morning sun
You keep on rising till the sky knows your name
Hello my only one
Remember who you are
No you’re not perfect but you’re not your mistakes

[Outro]
Hey, hey, hey, hey
Tell Nori about me, tell Nori about
I just want you to do me a favor

Tell Nori about me, tell Nori about me
Tell Nori about me, tell Nori about me
Tell Nori about me, tell Nori about me
Tell Nori about me, tell Nori about me
Tell Nori about me, tell Nori about me
Tell Nori about me, tell Nori about me
Tell Nori about me, tell Nori about me
Tell Nori about me, tell Nori about me
Tell Nori about me, tell Nori about me...


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Book Club Corner - E.L. James - Fifty Shades of Grey

Hi Guys,

So today I am doing another book review (my fave!!!).

Now this book has received many many reviews, and rightly so. I, myself, was quite hesitant to read it. It just isn't really the kind of book I normally read. And oh boy when the movie was released people just couldn't stop talking about it. So I just had to see for myself what the hype was all about.

The woman in my family all read the book before me and when I asked them to explain what the book was about it just made me even more nervous to read it. It just so wasn't me. It was unlike anything I had ever read or heard about.

So I started reading (with trepidation). And I was PLEASANTLY surprised. There was nothing "low classed" about it. The book was written so tastefully and eloquently. There was nothing pornographic about it. Yes the author goes into alot of explicit detail as to the sexual nature and going on's of  Christian and Ana's sexual relationship but that's what makes it that much more interesting.

It was so engrossing watching an innocent girl find herself and become a woman. It also shows us what great lengths we as woman go to please a man. She tries things she has never even heard of (I was even afraid for her) but evolves and starts to test her own limits. She falls in love with Christian who turns out to be so complicated.

It's a complicated love story. Ana falls for a man that you can only dream about (rich, good looking and intelligent.) But he comes with so much baggage and at the end of the book she realises that the baggage is too much to handle.

E.L. James has one helluva an imagination. How she came up with the "Red Room" and all those toys is beyond me. But cudos to you girl. (The research must've had it's up :) )

I would definitely recommend this book. It is a fun, interesting read and you just will not be able to put it down. And once you get to the end, you will not be able to wait to read the next one. (I just started mine.)

Good job E.L. James we look forward to reading many many more of your books

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Death, Children and a Tribute to Dad

Over the past little while we have experienced alot of death in our family. And it has been the hardest thing to deal with let alone try to explain to my 4 year old son what is happening.

I have tried to be as honest as possible without scaring him. I think the sooner he understands what it is and why it happens the sooner he'll be able to cope with it. 

I know from experience that not talking about it or dealing with questions when they arise, lead to bigger psychology problems in the long run. I know one of my friends never let her children go to funerals at all, until they lost their dad. That was the first time they ever experienced a funeral and I think that it was ALOT to take in for children so young. I too felt the same way. I never wanted my  son to have experience that either but because we have lost immediate family members there was no-one to stay at home with him while we went to the funeral. So I allowed him to go with us but did not allow him to "view." I explained as simply as I could why so and so had passed away. ( I still think that my technique needs a little help.) But he did seem to understand. (as best as child his age could.)

Dealing with death is hard, even for us as adults, so you can imagine how hard it is to understand when you are that young. I think having our children involved in preparation helps (if they are older). When I think of my own personal experience with loosing my dad at the age of 10 I still did not grasp the concept. For me it was like he had taken one of his many business trips. I pushed it out my mind. I never dealt with it. I hardly cried and I NEVER spoke about him. My siblings and I did not have any part in  his funeral so in essence we actually did not get to say goodbye. Only years later did I realise that had I spoken about it, had people not made it seem like he had never existed, had we had a part in his funeral then all those things would've made the healing process so much easier. 

Today it has been 17 years without my dad, and I miss so much everyday. At least now my family have learned to speak about him, have shared their memories with us (and still do every chance we get together.) And I am so grateful for it.

So my advise to all parents out there is TALK. Explain as best as you can and in as much detail as you feel is appropriate for your child. Don't make it a taboo subject in life because believe it or not it is THE ONLY GUARENTEE in life.

In closing I would like to post a poem in remembrance of my daddy Norman Patrick Johnson.

XoXo  T

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The Weight Debate

I never thought that this would be a particular subject I would write about. But that was until my 4 year old son recently started developing "weight issues." And not in the sense that you may think... He is not overweight, if anything I think he's too skinny. (Well in my opinion anyway.)

I started noticing a change in his eating habits. When we would drop him off at nursery school in the mornings he would say "Mommy don't put alot of cereal for me." Then he started coming home not having ate his lunch. At first I didn't take too much notice of it. I'm of the mind that if you are hungry, you will eat. Then one day he lifted my top up and said "Mommy you have 2 slices." He then went on to say "If I eat too much I will be fat and then I won't be able to run fast." And this is when the red flag shot up.

I recently had a conversation with one of the mom's at the school who also happens to be one of my close friends and I realised that her daughter was being teased and picked on because of her weight. ( I mean these are 4 year olds!!!! Weight should not even be an issue.) My son and her are quite good friends and they sit and eat lunch together everyday. Clearly the other children were making mean and nasty comments and this was/is affecting both children.

I am so upset by this because this is something that children of this age should really not be vibing on. And I blame us, the parents. We make weight such an issue in our everyday lives. (We may not realise it but we do.) And in turn our children are going back and relaying these messages to each other. The sad thing is they do not have the slightest clue that what they are saying or doing is having a negative effect on the other children.

I have had meetings with the teacher and even spoken to the other parents. I know alot of people are of the mind that if it is not affecting their child/ren, or if they have not said anything then it's not a problem or it's not their problem. But this is ALL of our problem.

We as parents are there to teach our children what is right or wrong. Why does being "different" have to be perceived as a negative thing?

I am taking a responsible stand and teaching my son that there is NOTHING wrong with being different or even fat. God made us all in different shapes, sizes and colours. We should love and respect each other no matter what.

Xenophobia-The Ugly Monster

This post is a very sensitive one and I do appologise if some people feel offended and if I come across as too angry. (These are not my intentions at all). My intention is to bring awareness and ultimately affect change.

You know how we all ALWAYS have an opinion on something regardless of the situation? (Come on you know we do.) Hell I myself had an opinion on this topic until it literally happened on my front door.)

Never have I been more ashamed and embarrassed to call myself a South African than I did in the past 3 weeks. I remember I was in my bathroom on one Friday night when I heard screaming and shortly after that gunshots. (Now needless to say that I live in a complex and where the front gate is to my flat is the equivalent of 2 streets difference.) So you can just imagine how hectic things must've been for me to hear all that from such a distance.

There is a very busy, long main road where I live and most of the businesses on this road are foreign owned. It's not something that I've ever taken notice of because this is South Africa afterall, the "rainbow nation." I have grown up in diversity, my own family is diverse themselves. But believe it or not every single foreign owned shop was closed for about 4 days because people feared for their lives. Our whole community was brought to a standstill.

The only time I noticed how serious the problem was, was when the gunshots happened. (My own ignorance, I know.) But now that I am aware of the problem I would like to be a part of the solution.

It seems to me South Africans have forgotten that just 21 years ago were experienced apartheid. We were treated differently for our skin colours, we had to go to other countries to seek refuge. And now when other people (from THOSE very countries that we seeked refuge, might I add) have come into to our country seeking the same we treat them like animals?! We burn them and beat them just because they are from another country?! Are we not ALL HUMAN first? Do we all NOT bleed the SAME colour blood. Where does this hatred stem from? Are we going to start picking each other apart because we walk differently or eat different foods too? Where will we draw the line? Why does hatred have to continue from generation to generation? What EXAMPLE are we setting for our youth?

I recently read a story in the North Eastern Tribune where an eleven year old Zimbabwean boy wrote an open letter. It tore my heart apart. This little boy was even too scared to go and play outside because he did not want people to know that he is from Zimbabwe. Should an eleven year old be worried about things like that? NO!!!!

Our South Africans are complaining that the foreign nationals are "stealing their jobs." Yet ALOT of thoaw foreign nationals have started their own businesses and are creating job opportunities. ALOT of them are adding value to our economy. Yet we go and ransack their shops!!!! Are we just looking for "freebies?"

NEVER condemn anyone for trying to make a better life themselves. We should be lifting each other up and NOT tearing each other down. I DO NOT want my son to grow up in a country where every little thing is determined by the colour of his skin and where he comes from. Give credit where credit is due people. We could learn a thing or two from people who are coming from war areas and bettering themselves.